4 Things I Learned About Childhood Adversity at a High Security Prison

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This April, I was inside a high security prison. The plan was to talk to the men there about the work cdv0325.wpengine.com does and to educate them on the connection between childhood adversities and the potential impact. While I believe I educated them, they also educated me. Here is what I learned. 1) I could […]

Why Children Growing Up With Domestic Violence Struggle to Find Help Online

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Late last night, I Googled “bulimia.” A very good friend called me extremely upset and told me he heard his daughter throwing up after dinner. He is worried but doesn’t know what to do. She is 12 years old. I don’t know much about this topic, but I knew enough to search for “bulimia.” But […]

When ANGER Breeds Across Generations

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Many people who grew up experiencing adversities in childhood believe the LIE that ANGER gives us control, when, in fact, it is the exact opposite – it leads to loss of control. Here, I want to share part of the story of Jeremy – a young man who began his life believing this LIE. He […]

Independence vs Freedom from the LIES of CDV

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Some children learn fierce independence growing up with domestic violence. But being independent is not the same as being free from the Lies learned in that home. They learn at an early age to rely exclusively on themselves and no one else Often stuck in a physical environment that is violent, stressful, and painful, these children […]

The Price of Growing Up With Domestic Violence

The majority of adults who grew up with domestic violence feel immense shame and guilt as adults. Yet it can take time before we recognize that the source of our shame can often stem from feeling helpless as a child amid the violence at home, and somehow also responsible for causing it. The good news […]

Who Qualifies As a Child of Domestic Violence?

We are a silent group with no name, one whose numbers could populate an entire continent. It’s natural to doubt whether you were truly a child of domestic violence. In this article I hope to provide you with clarity, as well as some answers for what it means to be a child of domestic violence. […]

Discovering the Vicious Cycle That I Could Now End

As children we are often aware only of what’s happening directly around us. Yet as we become adults we often discover that the way our parents (or guardians) treated us had a lot to do with how they were treated as children. Domestic violence is unfortunately a vicious cycle that is often inherited and passed on from […]

My Story Growing Up With Domestic Violence

When I was 6 years old, my mother slept with a knife under her pillow, and I kept a baseball bat under my bed. It was one of those souvenir bats you might win at an amusement park, but it was the best weapon I could get my hands on. Although we kept these items […]

What is the one truth I must know if I experienced Childhood Domestic Violence – CDV

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“The worst guilt to accept is an undeserved guilt.” -Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged. If you grew up living with domestic violence it is highly likely that you carry with you a false sense of guilt—a false sense of shame. You believe that you are somehow guilty or that you have something to be ashamed of. […]