Why Children Growing Up With Domestic Violence Struggle to Find Help Online


Late last night, I Googled “bulimia.” A very good friend called me extremely upset and told me he heard his daughter throwing up after dinner. He is worried but doesn’t know what to do. She is 12 years old. I don’t know much about this topic, but I knew enough to search for “bulimia.” But […]

Because of the Adversity I Faced in Childhood, There’s Nothing I Can’t Do


Originally appeared on The Huffington Post, 2/12/2015 and domesticshelters.org, 12/28/2015 By Brian F. Martin and Kathleen Kendall-Tackett, Ph.D. A 16-year-old who grew up experiencing adversity in childhood said this to Brian Martin several years ago, and he included her story in his book, Invincible: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up With Domestic Violence and […]

Traditional Thanksgiving After a Non-Traditional Childhood


Are you growing up in a home or did you grow up in a home where you faced adversities? Because if you experienced adversities like physical abuse, Childhood Domestic Violence, emotional abuse, neglect, or any others, Thanksgiving and “holiday time” are often confusing and uncomfortable. Which is maddening because aren’t they supposed to be cheerful […]

How Childhood Domestic Violence Impacts Us… Young and Old


(Originally appearing on The Huffington Post, November 17, 2015) By Brian F. Martin and Ruth M. Glenn, MPA, Executive Director, National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) We recently conducted focus groups with women who were residing in domestic violence shelters. There were many insights, but one new conclusion was drawn. If we want to end […]

The Adversity Faced in Childhood That Has No Name


(Originally appearing on The Huffington Post, Sept. 29, 2015) Did you know that growing up facing adversity in your childhood home has an impact on your life that can last well into your adult years? The adversity negatively wires a developing brain. This can cause us to struggle with our relationships, emotions, behaviors, and health. […]

What Happens to Children of Domestic Violence When Parents Inflict GUILT Along with The Violence

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I will often share the stories of those who experienced adversity in childhood where they were not the direct target of the abuse. I do this to illustrate that any person who experiences adversity in childhood is profoundly psychologically impacted, regardless of whether or not any physical trauma is sustained. But many who grow up […]