For most of us who’ve grown up with domestic violence, just knowing that our “issues” stem from our childhood isn’t enough. Perhaps you’ve already made that connection. But whether you have or haven’t, it helps to be able to actually see a possible path out of the LIES and also exactly how you can walk this path yourself.
This is why I write extensively about the LIES we learn growing up with domestic violence here and also why I wrote the Best Seller INVINCIBLE: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up With Domestic Violence, And The Truths To Set You Free. I hope to be able to demonstrate the practical, proven way forward – the same way others before you have taken. As you’ll see, you can transform the LIES learned in childhood into the TRUTHS that are already in you.
I have learned in working with people who, as I did, grew up living with domestic violence, that it helps to share stories rather than simply hand down facts and advice. Why? Because it helps us transform the meaning of what we experienced and subsequently, the outcome. Others can offer a different perspective. It also motivates us to see that others have succeeded before us and also, see exactly how they did it, so we can model them. According to leading research, sharing is one of the most effective ways to overcome the negative impact and begin to heal.
Sharing also helps build the awareness level, which is now less than <10%, and strengthen this community that’s 1 billion people, most of whom believe they’re all alone. But we’re not alone – 1 in 7 people experienced something similar to what we did growing up. Sharing with others helps us see that and gain empowerment from knowing others understand exactly what we went through, care, and support us.
To this end, throughout this blog, alongside the facts, research and expert insights I’ve gathered, I also provide compelling, inspiring stories of people just like you and me who’ve overcome each LIE learned growing up with adversity in our childhood home, to embrace the life of accomplishment and happiness that at first seemed distant and unattainable to them.
Allow their freedom from the LIES to be yours as well
I’ve been sharing and will continue to share real-life stories related to unlearning the LIES and applying the TRUTHS. As always, I encourage you to open yourself to these stories and see where your own past and memories are similar, and also where they are different. Let the journeys of each of these brave souls be your roadmap, their discoveries be your discoveries too, their breakthroughs your breakthroughs. Allow their freedom from the LIES to be yours as well.
Please share in the comments below how hearing another person’s story may have impacted you in the past. Has this ever inspired you to share your own story? You can share it now, in the comments below or by emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Thank you for sharing!