We may learn many intense LIES if we experience adversity in our childhood homes – lies that perpetuate powerful negative emotions like anger, depression and resentment that can fuel negative behaviors and in many other ways adversely impact us. One particular lie, however, can slip through the cracks and remain hidden – much as the circumstances surrounding many children of domestic violence do.
Hopelessness can be an easy lie to hide
Here in this post, I’ll reveal more about this LIE so that you can understand how damaging it can be to your life and share TRUTH.
So what does hopelessness look like? It might not be immediately apparent. On the surface, hopelessness can be an easy lie to hide. Those living with a sense of hopelessness can actually appear successful and accomplished on the outside, often because they’re fighting hard against a world they’ve been taught is “out to get them,” or they’re struggling to disprove an inherited belief that “you can never amount to anything.”
Deep within, though, these individuals are often drowning, because in their minds, they live a life without meaning, without purpose. To endure such suffering – an existence with no apparent meaning – is to endure your own kind of hell on earth.
Some people who suffer the lie of hopelessness, however, don’t even fully realize it
Some people who suffer the lie of hopelessness, however, don’t even fully realize it. They feel numb or lackluster or they feel a sense of “boredom” with life overall. Others struggle with a steady, low-level depression.
But like all lies, HOPELESSNESS can be unlearned and you can find your way to a life filled with purpose and hope by discovering the TRUTH – that you’re more GUIDED than most. So it is important to look within and be honest with yourself. When you become aware that you’re living the lie, even though such awareness may hurt at first, you can then seek out the solutions to heal it. If this lie sounds familiar, you can unlearn it. In subsequent blogs, I will share many stories, tips and insights to help you in that journey.
Did you already find a healthy way out of that sense of hopelessness? I invite you to explore and share in the comments below whether you’ve ever felt hopeless and how you were able to unlearn this LIE.
A detailed overview of the HOPELESS Lie can be found in CHAPTER 6 (“Hopeless to Guided”) of INVINCIBLE: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up With Domestic Violence, and the Truths to Set You Free.