As devastating as sadness can feel, so many people cannot even begin to touch or connect with it at times, much less to begin overcoming it. A defensive numbness sets in. On the other hand, some people are terrified of their grief and will do whatever it takes to deny, bury or avoid dealing with it.
If you grew up with Childhood Domestic Violence, the SADNESS can be particularly intense and crushing. How do you even begin to tackle the pain? Where do you start when there is a large part of you that never wants to relive that SADNESS or hurt from your past ever again?
Read the stories of others
I’ve found that unraveling the LIES we’ve learn growing up with adversity in childhood – of which SADNESS is one – requires some distance and objectivity to help ease into the process. We can most easily do this by reading the stories of others and reflecting on them.
In upcoming articles, you’ll find I share with you many of the facts, truths and empowering lessons we can learn regarding SADNESS and the other LIES that were encoded as we experienced adversity in childhood – and I do so particularly and consistently through the real-world stories of those who share our same heritage of adversity in our childhood homes and have found a way to triumph over it.
I deeply encourage you to open yourself up to these stories as they come. Note how various courageous men and women have freed themselves from a vicious cycle of SADNESS and other LIES, and then consider how you can do the same for yourself. Let these stories reveal to you the secret aches and triumphs hidden in your own past and the path to full potential.
My hope is that, through these articles, you will discover that YOU are the one you’ve been waiting for – that you are never alone, and that you are far more powerful than your past, your SADNESS. or any of the LIES you were taught to believe in your youth.
Are you ready to unravel your own SADNESS? Does it comfort you to know that we can walk this journey together and that you are not alone?
I invite you to share your thoughts in the comments section below. It will help you reaffirm to yourself and others that in fact none of us are alone in this. We are here together for a shared purpose and we’re on a shared journey.
A detailed overview of the SAD LIE can be found in CHAPTER 4 (“Sad to Grateful”) of INVINCIBLE: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up With Domestic Violence and the Truths to Set You Free.