What unknown special skill do those who grew up living with domestic violence have access to?

thoughts actions attitude quote“I understand that I cannot control the thoughts and actions of others. But I can exercise the ultimate control—control over the meaning of any situation—control over myself. When I am in control of my thoughts and my feelings and my actions, nothing is more powerful.” (Invincible: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up with Domestic Violence, and the Truths to Set You Free, Chapter 6)

You have the power to control the meaning of any situation in that you can control your thoughts, feeling, and actions. Here are two proven ways to do so…this is part 1 of 2.

Manage the Gap

As we learn from Stephen Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, between a stimulus and a response there is a gap in time, and what you choose to do during that gap is crucial.

Managing this gap is precisely what will put you in control of a situation and allow you to act in a way that moves you toward your full potential.  When adversity strikes, first say to yourself, “Manage the Gap.”

While you may not be able to control a negative thought or feeling that enters your mind, you can choose to believe it or not, you can choose how long you focus on it, and you can choose your action.

Part 2 will be published Tuesday.

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